When people have children, they become so use to telling them how to be. Because they've done it for so many years, once that child reaches adulthood, parents still think it's okay to control them. They don't want to see their children grow up. That is when their actions become disrespectful; When they continue to order us around instead of asking us politely. If they were nice about it, I would show them the respect back and oblige. I don't know why that's so hard.
Parents want us to grow up and do adult things while controlling us like children. That's not how it works. You either want us to grow up, or you don't. If you want us to go far in life, you need to loosen your grip. If you are concerned, offer your input.. but be respectful; Not controlling.
I've seen many people give up on life because they were surrounded by people who made them insecure. They didn't try to get a job because they didn't think they were good enough for one, so why bother? As parents, you should be that positive energy. You may think being a control freak is going to push them, but not everyone is the same.
As an adult, you're suppose to make your own choices. You're allowed to make mistakes in order to learn from it. To grow from it. You're allowed to be your own person and express yourself in your own way. You're allowed to stand up for yourself and say what's on your mind. You're allowed to wear what you want to wear. You can even choose to be naked! --... If you want to learn your lesson with jail time. ..Totally not worth it, but who am I to judge?
The problem with many parents (not all!) is that a lot of them want Respect to be one-sided. It's okay for them to disrespect you, but DON'T YOU DARE disrespect them! It seems that the only way they are going to show me respect is when I follow their every command and be what they think is Perfection. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to waste my life away being someone that I am not. You either respect me, or you don't. I'm done trying to earn it from people who just see my flaws.
I am going to be respectful towards people. With that said, I will draw the line when I feel I am being disrespected.
I may say that it's fine, even though that does not excuse their behavior. However, I have reached a point where it's like this; They can do their own thing. I can do mine. Although it has hurt me emotionally, I can only move forward. I can be angry at them all of my life. I can let my anger drain me of my energy. I can take my anger out on people. I can let it consume me.. but I choose not to. Our chapter is done. If people want to lie, that is on them. One day their loved ones will see that side of them and it will be their problem. I will have already moved on with my life, surrounded by people I love. People who lift each other up and make life worth living.